Amanda and I have (had?) a lot in common: we are both young, beautiful, vivacious women who really don't take a lot of shit. Especially from men. And we both have a difficult time finding men because of our general attitude towards life. However, Amanda found a man. A cute man. An awesome man. (I love Curtis, if you couldn't tell.)
Anyway, Amanda had mentioned to me before that I needed to read The Year of Yes, by Maria Dahvana Headley. I wasn't ready to listen to the suggestion at the time , but this time was different. I went to the library (which is literally NEXT DOOR -- how cool is THAT?) and borrowed the book. It wasn't checked out, which I thought was a sign from fate. And it was a memoir -- my emphasis in grad school. It wasn't a self-help book. It was a memoir! How exciting.
Although I am reading another book, and I rarely read more than one book at a time unless forced by the university to do so, I read the first few pages of the book and was immediately enthralled. The premise of the memoir is our beloved author decides to date everyone who asks her out, because she is tired of complaining that she is single. Sound familiar?
Yes, but I do say yes to everyone who asks me. That is part of MY problem. I can't get anyone normal to ask me out. Only freaks can read the invisible sign on my forehead that reads: ASK ME OUT. I AM SINGLE.
Once I read the first few pages, I decided that 2008 is going to be MY Year of Yes. I am going to go out with everyone who asks me, but I am not going to focus my energies on the Internet dating sites, which obviously are not working. But I am going to focus on being positive and outgoing. And do the things I want to do. If I so happen to want to watch TV on a Friday night, then I will, and I will not feel guilty about it, nor will I feel like a loser because I am alone on a Friday. I won't be alone every Friday. I have friends who like to spend time with me, sometimes on Fridays. I am going to say YES to Micaela. And although that sounds totally selfish, I figure, what better time to spend on me than now, when I am single? When I do find that man (which sometimes I doubt I ever will) life will be so different that I won't have time to spend on just me. So, why not spend some me time with myself, say YES to Micaela, and maybe, just possibly, that perfect man will come along and not be too put off by my awesome personality that somehow intimidates men, or just plain pisses them off.
So, a New Year's toast: To Micaela and her Year of Yes!!
6 comments:
Micaela - First I read your blog this morning and then I read another favorite of mine, "French Laundry at Home"....same theme, different year. Read it, you'll get a kick out of it. The Year of Yes!
Lorna
Yay! I am totally holding you to this!
Micaela! I love it! If it makes you feel any better, it's New Year's Eve and I'm sitting alone catching up on blogs...hahah
love and miss you tons!
kat
Yes, Yes, Yes!! I did something similar to this in 2004; I proclaimed it "The Year of Holli" and essentially said yes to myself. I had the most fantastic year that year (and met someone special). Here's to your Year of Yes!
Rock On,
Holli
I am glad that everyone is so supportive of my Year of Yes, because honestly, I think it might take some pushing sometimes to get me to stay positive and outgoing. Here's to my pals and my Year of Yes! (So far, so good!)
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