Saturday, August 18, 2007

God Help Me, Are Any of Us Safe?

In my dating adventures that I call my life, I have come across the problem of fidelity.

Women are just as bad as men when it comes to fidelity, but in my cases, I have only come across men who have cheated on me, because I only date men. That being said, my conversation henceforth will consist of me arguing that men are tramps. I am well aware of the other side of the argument, but for the purposes of this blog, bear with me.

When Randy and I broke up, he said it was the "realization that he could cheat on me" that woke him up to the fact that we shouldn't be together. Fidelity again rears its no-so-ugly head. Why do them men I date seem to think that realizing they can cheat on me is what makes our relationship go sour?

Everyone CAN cheat on everyone else. It is the fact that once you find someone you truly love, you don't WANT to cheat on that person. You don't WANT to hurt them, mentally or physically. You don't WANT them to feel betrayed, angry, or disillusioned. You want that other person to be happy and to have a feeling of trust in you and in the world.

However, the men I have dated apparently do not feel that way about me.

The things is that no one is safe. I thought the usual. I'm not pretty enough; I'm not smart enough; I'm not funny enough. But then I remembered that a lot of women are cheated on. Some women I know. Some women we all know. (Jennifer Aniston? Hello? She's freaking HOT.) But that is my point. It isn't enough to be hot. Or smart. Or funny. Men are going to cheat because of some weird and strange thing in their brains that the grass is always greener. Men are always looking for someone better. And the fact that we live in a "ME ME ME ME" society does not help our situation any, either, ladies.

So, I am readjusting my list have "Must Haves".

Number one: "Appreciate me for who I am, and don't be looking anywhere else for what I can give you, because I can give you the world. That is, if you are man enough to take it."

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Jennifer Aniston is not hot. She's cute, maybe, but not hot. She's more like a girl-next-door with talent (I didn't always think so, but she is talented as an actress) who can be SEXY sometimes. I think she looks nice, she's not ugly by any stretch, but not HOT. I feel the same way about Julia Roberts; both Julia and Jennifer are overhyped as beauties in an age where one has to beautiful to be in a movie these days. The few exceptions to this rule don't make it any less true. There is a world of difference between HOT and cute. For example, Salma Hayek is SIZZLING HOT WITH THE BURNING FIRE OF A THOUSAND SUNS. Jennifer Aniston is...cute. The difference between those two is an area the size of China.